Yesterday my Stepdad kenneth Charles Davison passed away after several years of pain and the last year with Melanoma. He died peacefully with myself and my husband and hospice present. Afterwards we brought Mom over from the next door nursing home to say goodbye. That was as heartwrenching as his death.
We are all fine, my sons are here and made it just in time to say good bye- they are with mom today keeping her company. When they arrived and walked up to the bed to say hello, he wiggled 1 eyebrow for them. The hospice ladies said the hearing and recognition is the last to go. Within 3 hours of arriving after he was gone. Maybe since he knew they were on their way he waited? The hospice gal came in about 2:30 and asked if she could give him one last bath and I said sure! 15 minutes later they ran down the hall to get us and 8min later he was gone.Death of a loved one is never easy, but sitting with him and talking to him, thanking him for all the love he gave to mom, me and my family was more than I ever got with my own dad and gave me peace as well. I am truly blessed to have had him in my life.
My mom has been seeing her Daddy and Mother at the end of her bed. I am glad my kids are all with her to comfort and visit with her.
and I am going to add that the 2 funeral homes I have had to speak to yesterday and today have been RUDE and SARCASTIC and if it happens again I am going to let them have an earful!
Well, my step dad has been put on hospice and is back in the nursing home for his last days. Although I/we have known this would happen it took my breath away yesterday when I was holding his hand and sitting on the bed talking and he looked me in the eye and said " I am dying" and I had to say "yes, but no matter what -I love you". What do you say to that? I really had no words!
I didn't have the chance to do this with my own dad 19 years ago, and I have always regretted that, but now I am not so sure which is worse. Knowing or not knowing.
The doctor said if he doesnt start eating better (his throat hurts to swallow) he will have about 2 weeks, but she said she can't predict these things and we just need to keep him comfortable. I know the Hospice and the nursing home will do a fine job.
I feel as though my insides are being ripped out as my Mom is still in the hospital till at LEAST Monday or Tuesday or whenever the nursing home she will go to has a bed ready for her. She will also be on pallative care with Hospice. All they can do with her dementia is make her comfortable how ever long that will be. Her kidneys aren't working and they are having to cath her a few times a day to remove the urine. She was able to see him yesterday for an hour then she wanted to go back "home". (he was one floor above her in the hospital)
My sweet wonderful daughter Katie has been with them almost all the time giving Kay and I a reprieve. She took these photos yesterday.
Neither of them could say much and mom was as usual, not understandable, and it was heartbreaking to watch but the calm that came over them both was so apparent. I wish moms mind worked better so she could grasp the gravity of what is happening. There has never been a question for me that he has loved and cared for my mom and seeing this brief interaction yesterday only confirmed their love this last 16 years. It will tear me apart to have to tell her he is gone when it happens because I know she will give up. He has been a VERY good stepdad to me.
Your prayers of comfort for my parents would be greatly appreciated.
While I am sitting in the room with my mom asleep yesterday, my cell phone rings and it's the doctors office of the ENT surgeon where my stepdad was for an appointment. They were sending him to the Emergency room.
So now BOTH of my parents are in the hospital. I am grateful that 2 of Ken's sons will be here tomorrow to see him.
But, it's a mess- they are both a mess- he is physically ill and she is mentally ill.
and so it goes- please add our family to your prayers- just for peace and comfort. God is at work and has his plan and I have to just wait and endure and so do they.
My mom is talking about my Gramma (her mom) this week. Seeing her, talking to her but only in her dreams. I have no idea if there is a message there, but my mom is pretty clear that Gramma comes to see her. For that comfort for my mom I am truly grateful.
I promised photos of the jam- since I will be with mom at the hospital today, I will just share the photos today and a few details. Feel free to email me with your questions-
I decided to use up the frozen berries and make room in my freezer-
I put my thawed berries in the blender and hit liquify
always get your brand new lids HOT before you use them so they will seal- NEVER re-use lids!
cook the jam mixture following the Sure Jel packet directions
time to put in freshly washed "canning jars" NEVER use any other kind of jar!
add the hot lids
put on the rings and screw tight and turn over your jam to cool- I have been doing this method since 1980- learned it from my first Mother in law and have NEVER had a problem with it yet. When they are cooler about 40 min turn them upright and the jam/jelly will drop to the bottom and the lids seal like a charm.
Now, if you mess up a recipe and it's runny after it cools, use it for icecream or syrup! just be sure the lid sealed or else put it in the frig and use right away!
Hope you are utilizing all the fresh fruits, vegetables and herbs for your food storage this season! I am teaching jam and jelly making on the 17th for our Monthly Relief Society meeting.
now, off to the hospital to be with mom and see what the tests say
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